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My Problem with Valentine’s Day

My Problem with Valentine's DayBefore I begin, let’s just get one thing out of the way: this is not a rant about how commercialized/meaningless Valentine’s Day has become. That argument has basically taken over Valentine’s Day, and there is so much discussion about it that I hardly think I need to chime in. Instead, my problem with Valentine’s Day lies with the fact that it focuses primarily on romantic love. 

John Green makes a great argument for this idea in one of his older videos, saying that Valentine’s Day should be about all kinds of love. What about friendship? Why isn’t that celebrated on Valentine’s Day? I certainly love my family and friends and I make a point of giving them all Valentine’s Day cards every year, but it seems like most people only concentrate on their special someone.

Think of how fantastic it would be if all kinds of love were celebrated and appreciated on Valentine’s Day! Perhaps we can work to change the way we celebrate this holiday, but until then I’m going to continue celebrating it in my own way. So Happy Valentine’s Day, you lovely people! ❤

How do you feel about Valentine’s Day? Let me know in the comments section below!



12 responses to “My Problem with Valentine’s Day”

  1. I don’t like Valentine’s Day either. But mostly because of the commercialized/ meaningless category reasons.
    Anyway, if you want a day to celebrate non- Romantic (as in, that for friends and family) you have Esther Day. That day is specifically meant for telling the people you love that you love them.
    It is a thing in Nerdfighteria- mayne we should make it a thing with everyone!


    1. That’s a great point- Esther Day definitely needs to be more popular! Nerdfighteria has thought of everything haha 🙂 Thanks for commenting!


  2. I definitely agree with you about Valentine’s Day! I’ve always felt that romantic love is privileged over other kids of love, particularly on Valentine’s Day. I remember making cards and presents for my friends and family in school; it was so much fun! It makes sense that there should be a day to celebrate all the important people in one’s life. 🙂


    1. It’s nice to know I’m not the only one who feels this way! 🙂

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  3. Ever since I was little my mom got me something small for Valentine and now that I’m older I get her chocolates or something like that. She is always my Valentine 🙂


    1. OMG same!! My mom and I always get each other something, and then usually we do something fun at night. This year we rewatched the Fellowship of the Ring movie, and it was great 🙂

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  4. There are two reasons I don’t like Valentine’s Day, and both were mentioned in your post. The first reason, and the reason I didn’t care for it even as a small child, is that it seems so odd to me to have a day to remind you to love people. If you’re in a good relationship (be it with friends, family, or a significant other), why do you need a special day specifically for that? The second reason is one I really only thought about when I was older and had a better sense of economics, and it’s the over-commercialized nature of the event. If I were to take this a step further, it would be the fact that we’ve made a holiday supposed all about love out of the martyrdom of some guy who happened to be Christian hundreds of years ago. I’ve never understand the evolution.

    ~ Liza @ Classy Cat Books

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    1. Those are really great points! It’s so true- people who are in good relationships shouldn’t need a day to remind them to love that other person. And really how does chocolate and flowers equate to love anyways? Our society is so commercialized, it’s terrible! Hopefully it will change someday. 🙂


  5. Whenever I am bothered to celebrate it (meh, it’s a meh day for me) I celebrate it with my family and friends. But yeah, the commercialised version only celebrates romantic love, which is bollocks because romantic love isn’t the love that’s keeping me sane. 😛
    I don’t know. I mean I like that romantic love gets its own day and all that, but love is love, right? So many feelings in romantic songs can be applied to friendships, hell even familial relationships! *shrugs* everyone just stop doing what you’re doing and reassess. 😀


    1. haha that’s so true, we should have a day every year when everyone just stops everything and reassesses their lives. Now, THAT would be a holiday I would celebrate! 🙂

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  6. I agree with you! I think it’s important to focus on love outside the romantic sense.

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former english major, current twenty-something book lover, allergic to nuts. drop me a line at or on instagram.


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